I say, know what you need and beg (I mean ask) for it!
We all have needs, right? Well, I'll speak for myself. I have needs, of course in the best possible way AND I'm proud of it! Yup, I'm a great proponent of asking for what you need. After all, how will Kat know if I don't tell her? Sometimes it's my best longing look that clearly communicates my desire (my mind meld technique). When that doesn't do it, a chili combo of a sad whine/bark does it. Other times, it requires an insistent nudge with my nose that finally does it. The key is persistence. It works every time.
How do YOU communicate what you need? Here are some common mistakes I've seen the humans in our household make on that front. I'll tell you a little secret, even Kat can fall prey to some of these, OK all of these Yes, I got her permission to say that).
"Assuming" that others know what you need and then feeling a bit resentful when you don't magically get it. What were you thinking?
Thinking you've been crystal clear in sharing what you need, only to find out that the other person totally misinterpreted it. How frustrating!
Believing that the other person was genuinely committed to meeting that need but was really only doing it because they felt they "had to" (i.e. compliance) or worse yet, they said yes, but then do nothing (i.e. lip service.) Woof!
What's a girl to do! Who's responsible for this, really!?! Hard truth . . . only YOU can prevent miscommunications and the firestorm that can be ignited. Sorry, not what you wanted to hear. Not saying that to be judgmental. It is what it is.
Even under the best of circumstances communications can go easily astray. Kat does know this first hand. It's why she's got SO much insight about how to minimize these miscommunications and course correct when things get off track. Kat doesn't like me to brag on her, however, I think it's fair to say, it's one of her specialities and something she's passionate about.
As the Chief Morale Officer at KSHIFT, I would highly recommend you go to our website and download our 4 C's Leadership Framework™. Just scroll down the page until you find the Download Button. It's a great tool that will help guide you through our 4-step process that will ensure you can communicate with Clarity, gain genuine Commitment, build the Capacity you need to get what you want, and the Courage to lovingly hold one another accountable for your desired results.
But wait, there's more . . . always wanted to say that! If you'd like some help with that, Kat would be happy to schedule an initial Clarity Call to understand your needs and see if we're a good fit and/or help you connect with the right resources. Just click HERE to prepare for that call.
In times of uncertainty, employees crave clarity. As a leader, you won't always have all of the answers - no one expects you to - so you must be open to listening and learning from others. Once you understand a particular challenge and outline the options, you have to be confident in making bold and optimistic decisions. (Marilyn Hewson)